Encourager or Not?

posted Sep 1, 2019, 7:05 AM by Rita Shipman   [ updated Jan 13, 2020, 5:12 PM ]

Today I was thinking about encouragement, and how we are to encourage each other, as Paul tells us to in 1 Thessalonians 5:11, is to build each other up.  In Scripture, it says, “just as you are already doing.”

I had to stop a moment and ask myself. “am I doing this?  Am I thinking of others, being other-centered, or thinking only of my own comfort, thoughts and wants? Being self-centered or other-centered?

Last week, in the sermon, Pastor suggested three steps for us to take as we look at our lives. Of course, he was referencing anger and controlling our tongue, as James tells us in his first chapter. However, after hearing these three steps, I thought I could use them in looking at my full character, which is really one part of my personality and who I am in relationship to God. This originally became important to me in 2001, as I accepted myself as a new creation in Jesus for the very first time.

I started to review my current behaviors and habits recently, as I became certified as a facilitator of the Christian DISC Personality Assessment test.  This is where I began to exam how my temperament (how God has wired me) combines with my character (my values I have developed in life).

 I started to look inward at my moral makeup, what was I using to function in my relationships, how was I treating others, and what things motivated me to action. Was I an encourager of others? Was I looking for what I could get from them?

Our pastor challenged us to take these steps:

  • Step 1 is to admit what I am doing. To look within to what motivates my behaviors.

  • Step 2 is to exam it. Am I living a life that is in line with how I say I want to live? Am I walking my talk? 

  • I looked at how I do tasks, how I function in relationships, and how I meet demands on my time, my abilities, my heart, my desires?  Would I encourage other’s ideas, or interrupt them, to tell them how I would do it? Was I willing to exam my words, thoughts, and deeds under God’s light?

  • Step 3 is to transform the behaviors that concerned me. Confess them to God and ask Him for transformation, to guide my steps, thoughts, actions, and deeds! To help me be an encourager to others, willingly building them up.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will. (Romans 12:2 NLT) 

Here is where I started to think about my temperament, how God wired me, and the gifts He has given to me….but that leads us into another discussion. Tune in tomorrow to read about how we respond to receiving gifts from God, like salvation!

God Bless, Rita